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7 top tips for including dogs at celebrant weddings

by Trevor Snaith | 21,May 2023 | Celebrant

Here are my 7 top tips for including dogs at celebrant weddings:

Choose a dog-friendly venue: Make sure the venue you select can accommodate dogs and is welcoming towards them. Research dog-friendly wedding venues in your area to find the perfect location for your ceremony.
Inform other guests: It’s polite to let your guests know in advance that your dog will be present at the wedding. This way, they can prepare themselves and decide how much interaction they would like to have with your furry friend.
Let your photographer know: Inform your photographer that you’ll have a dog at the wedding. Check if they have experience photographing animals and if they are comfortable around dogs. It’s always good to ensure they are not allergic to dogs as well.
Find a comfortable role for your dog: Consider your dog’s personality and how they react to new surroundings and people. Choose a role that suits them, such as a ring bearer, best man/maid of honour, or simply being by your side during the ceremony. Practice and train your dog beforehand to make sure they are comfortable with their role.
Plan the day for your dog: Take into account your dog’s needs throughout the day. Plan toilet breaks, feeding times, and exercise. If you’re staying overnight, consider where your dog will stay. Familiarize your dog with the venue beforehand to help them acclimate.
Consider the weather: If it’s going to be hot, ensure there’s a comfortable and shaded space for your dog to rest. If it’s raining, have an indoor space or a pop-up kennel/tent available for them. Make sure your dog is comfortable regardless of the weather conditions.
Arrange for a chaperone: If you need someone to look after your dog during the wedding, consider hiring a dog sitter or walker. Choose someone your dog knows and loves, such as a regular walker or sitter, so they can be a part of your special day too.

Don’t forget to bring your dog’s favorite toys and chews to keep them occupied and happy throughout the busy day.

If you’re interested in a dog-friendly celebrant wedding, feel free to give me a call. I love dogs and would be delighted to meet you and your beloved pets!

Meaning of Flowers

by Trevor Snaith | 18,May 2023 | Celebrant, Civil Ceremony, Funeral, Renewal of Vows, Weddings

Flowers have long been associated with symbolism and can convey various emotions and messages based on their colours. While the meanings may vary across cultures and personal interpretations, certain flowers have commonly accepted associations with specific emotions. Here are a few examples:

Roses: Roses are one of the most well-known flowers, and different colours of roses can express different emotions. Red roses traditionally represent love and passion, while yellow roses symbolize friendship and joy. White roses are often associated with purity and innocence, while pink roses convey gratitude and admiration.

Poppies: Poppies are vibrant flowers that can evoke different emotions depending on their colour. Red poppies are commonly associated with remembrance and paying tribute to fallen soldiers, particularly in relation to World War I.

Lilies: Lilies are elegant and fragrant flowers that also come in various colours. White lilies are often associated with purity, innocence, and sympathy, making them a common choice for funerals or to express condolences. Orange lilies can represent confidence and passion, while yellow lilies are associated with happiness and gratitude.

It’s important to note that these associations are not set in stone and can vary across different cultures and personal experiences. However, the use of flowers to convey emotions has been a part of human culture for centuries, and their beauty and symbolism continue to inspire us.

Flowers have been assigned various meanings and symbolism throughout history and across different cultures. While interpretations can vary, here are some common meanings associated with different types of flowers:

Roses:

Red roses: Love, romance, passion.
Pink roses: Gratitude, appreciation, admiration.
White roses: Purity, innocence, reverence.
Yellow roses: Friendship, joy, new beginnings.
Sunflowers: Adoration, loyalty, longevity, happiness.

Tulips:

Red tulips: Love, passion.
Yellow tulips: Cheerfulness, friendship.
White tulips: Forgiveness, purity.
Purple tulips: Royalty, admiration.
Daisies: Innocence, purity, new beginnings.

Orchids: Exotic beauty, love, strength, luxury.

Lilies:

White lilies: Purity, innocence, sympathy.
Pink lilies: Prosperity, abundance, romance.
Calla lilies: Elegance, beauty.
Carnations:

Red carnations: Love, admiration.
Pink carnations: Mother’s love, gratitude.
White carnations: Pure love, innocence.
Yellow carnations: Friendship, joy.
Irises: Wisdom, faith, hope.

Lavender: Serenity, calmness, grace.

Chrysanthemums: Depending on the culture, chrysanthemums can represent various meanings, such as joy, optimism, longevity, and honour. They are often associated with honouring deceased loved ones and used in funeral arrangements.

Remember that these interpretations are not universal and can vary across cultures and personal perspectives. Additionally, the color of the flower can further influence its meaning. It’s always helpful to consider the specific cultural context and the relationship between the sender and recipient when giving or interpreting flower symbolism.

Handfasting in 2023

by Trevor Snaith | 16,May 2023 | Celebrant, Civil Ceremony, Master of Ceremonies, Weddings

Its fascinating to learn about the origins of phrases like “tying the knot” and “giving one’s hand in marriage” and how they are connected to the Handfasting Ceremony. The Handfasting Ceremony has been practiced for thousands of years and has evolved to become a significant part of wedding traditions worldwide.

The act of binding the couple’s hands together with cords or ribbons during the Handfasting Ceremony symbolizes the joining of their lives and the creation of a lasting bond through marriage. It represents the idea of two individuals intertwining their lives and families, committing to each other for eternity.

The beauty of the Handfasting Ceremony lies in its versatility. The choice of materials used to bind the hands can be varied and personalized, incorporating elements such as ribbons, braided cords, tartans, or sentimental pieces handed down through generations. This allows couples to infuse their own unique symbolism and meaning into the ceremony, making it a special and deeply personal experience.

Throughout history, the Handfasting Ceremony has transcended cultural boundaries and been incorporated into both religious and non-religious wedding ceremonies. Its enduring presence across different cultures and time periods demonstrates the universality of the desire to symbolize the union of two people in a meaningful and profound way.

Whether a couple chooses to include the Handfasting Ceremony as part of their wedding or not, its rich history and symbolism serve as a reminder of the enduring power and beauty of marriage.

Harry Potter themed Wedding Ceremony

by Trevor Snaith | 29,Aug 2022 | Celebrant

I had the pleasure of conducting a wedding Service with a Harry Potter twist. Harry Potter wedding themes are a really popular choice. Its a lovely way to add a touch of magic to any wedding day.

The event was at The Hotel La Tour in Milton Keynes. A wonderful venue with a beautiful outdoor space

The service included well known Harry Potter quotes and “The Unbreakable Vow featured Handfasting and parchment signing

The couple Cesca and Ana had created a Harry Potter theme to the day – it was magical The Golden Snitch design was adapted to make the day special

Arguably one of the most famous lines from Harry Potter, ‘Always’ was perfect to include in the exchange of vows

We had the marriage announcement “Proclamus Marritus”

The Parchment was signed with a Magical Harry Potter wand

I also got to wear my Tie with pride

DIRECT CREMATION … WHAT’S THAT?

by Trevor Snaith | 2,Apr 2020 | Celebrant, Civil Ceremony, Coronavirus, COVID-19, Funeral, Memorial Service

If only I had a penny for every time someone asked me in the last week – “Why has the crematorium limited numbers?” and “Does that mean we can’t have a funeral?”. Next week I think we will be asked “What is a Direct Cremation?”.

Losing a loved one at any time is a terrible experience to go through. Grief hurts – it takes your breath away. Yet those first two weeks following a death often fly by. The loss of a loved one triggers weeks of organisation and this often delays our pain – for a while.

The tradition of a funeral is to create a time where the true journey of grief can begin. A funeral service brings a community together. It brings an opportunity to acknowledge our loss and process our hurt with those we love.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN FUNERAL NUMBERS ARE RESTRICTED?

At the moment we are undergoing a soft ‘lockdown’. Gatherings of more than 2 people are effectively banned – “With the exception of funerals”. Currently a burial or cremation can go ahead with mourners in attendance. However the number of people that can attend has been severely restricted.

HOW MANY PEOPLE CAN ATTEND A FUNERAL AT MY LOCAL CREMATORIUM?

Some have all limited their numbers to 4 – 6 mourners only. Understandably, these limitations may feel restrictive and cruel – unimaginable even. As a funeral celebrant I can share a slightly different perspective.

The painful yet understandable truth is that people are scared of congregating at a funeral. Even if they are ‘allowed to’. Those that want to attend often receive requests from their own families not to. Unless you are a very close relation or friend you may feel that it is wiser to protect your own health.

Some celebrants are already provoiding ‘alternative’ services at crematoriums. Sadly, we are now preparing for the likelihood that ALL of our deceased may be sent to Direct Cremation.

DIRECT CREMATION – DOES THAT MEAN NO FUNERAL ?

Direct cremation means no gathering or service. Your Funeral Director will take your loved one to the crematorium by hearse. Once there they will hand the coffin into the care of the crematorium staff. The coffin will be taken directly for cremation.

ARE THERE ANY ALTERNATIVES TO DIRECT CREMATION?

On the face of it – unfortunately not. The guidelines are set in stone for everyone’s safety to prevent cross contamination. Currently, there is no indication as to when these will be lifted.

Clearly times are changing around us incredibly quickly. Flexibility is going to be the key during these times for everyone! Fortunately forward thinking and agile independent celebrants are now able to offer families a ‘virtual’ funeral.

Look online to find a local celebrant that can provide this service. If you ask your Funeral Director to contact them on your behalf. Their fees will be part of your funeral package.

WHAT IS A VIRTUAL SERVICE?

Well first and foremost – it is not a funeral service that you would recognise. Sadly a virtual service can’t ever replace the tradition of attending a final resting place. You won’t have the option to meet your loved ones face to face and offer hugs and words of support.

No one will ever try and tell you this is a great alternative. It simply isn’t.

But if Direct Cremation becomes compulsory it will be the only alternative. A virtual service can also be booked whilst the number of mourners remains restricted at a crematorium.

What a virtual service does provide is a set time and space for your friends and family to join together to acknowledge their loss and share their memories.

At the same time as the coffin arrives at the crematorium you will be invited to observe and interact with the service – albeit remotely. Your celebrant will lead a personalised ceremony to celebrate the life of your loved one. The service can include readings, rituals, songs and a Eulogy. Everyone can be encouraged to join in from their own home.

HOW IS THE DIRECT CREMATION PLANNED?

Initially a celebrant will contact you through a phone meeting or video call (whichever you prefer). This will be in place of the usual home visit. During that meeting they will gather enough information to create a service that is meaningful and memorable. The celebrant will help you to create a fitting funeral. Would you prefer a traditional style or something more upbeat and celebratory?

Funeral Directors should be happy to take a photo of the coffin, hearse and flowers that the celebrant will share with you. This may help you to visualise the ‘final journey’ which has became synonymous with traditional funerals.

You can invite as many people as you wish to attend ‘virtually’ from the safety of their own home.

IT’S ALL TOO MUCH OF A SHOCK – I CAN’T FACE THIS RIGHT NOW

Many families affected by Coronavirus will find the loss of a loved one both sudden and shocking. They may wish to postpone the service until later in the year. Speak to your independent celebrant about arranging a ‘Celebration of Life Service’ at a venue of your choice. You could gather together in your own garden, in a favourite place you visited. Perhaps raise a glass in your favourite drinking place or even at a sports / social club?

THE FACE OF FUNERALS WILL CHANGE OVER THE COMING MONTHS

There is no reason for a family to lose their loved one to direct cremation without an opportunity to honour their life. It is crucial that we find ways to show our respect in a way that is meaningful and personalised.

Please do feel free to contact me if you would like to discuss a virtual service for your loved one.

Conducting a funeral today is so much harder

by Trevor Snaith | 29,Mar 2020 | Celebrant, Civil Ceremony, Funeral

The job of a celebrant is always challenging emotionally. Conducting a service under these Coronavirus restrictions is so much harder. The family needs to have a funeral as part of the grieving process and to be able to share grief with other people. Not being able to do that is heartbreaking.

As a professional celebrant it’s about delivering a celebration of life under really difficult circumstances because people aren’t enjoying these restrictions – But we have no choice.

We have to stick to the rules or risk funerals being banned, as has happened in some other parts of the world..

To not have a funeral is unthinkable and i cant t even begin to imagine how awful that would be for a family not be able to say a proper goodbye.

But if people flout the rules, it will push it to the next level of non-attended funerals which I cannot even begin to imagine how hard that would be.